Wow...divorce...is this really happening to me? No one skates through divorce, it is life altering and hugely emotional. However, life will be much easier if you avoid certain traps. Read on to see what self-sabotaging mistakes not to make.
1) Wallowing - ahhh... the infamous pity party. I've had a few of those myself and this is what I have learned. A few is alright - but no more than a few, okay? Continuous sadness is punishing to your self-esteem and physical health. Pick yourself up and do something positive. Exercise is fantastic for lifting the spirits and making you feel like you've accomplished something. So is journaling. It's impor women's jackets tant to get those feeling out of you so you can gain heal and gain a different perspective.
2) Obsessing -Your friends and family are more than happy to be there for you initially but if you continue to talk of nothing else you are running the risk of becoming quite boring and draining and you may lose some dear friends. Living in the past will keep you stuck. If you can't get the person out of your mind try writing a letter to them and telling them everything that's creating your unhappiness. There's no need to mail it - instead have a "letting go" ceremony. You'll have released the pain and anger in the writing - now replace that energy with light and love. Light a candle, send the person love and silently wish them well. Burn the letter in your fireplace or somewhere safe.
3) Abusing Your Body with Excessive Eating, Drinking and Drugs- There's a saying, Wherever you go, there you are. Over indulging in comfort foods or numbing your mind with alcohol or drugs is not going to magically erase your problems. This behavior is very self-punishing. This behavior is usually an avoidance of truth - but the truth is the only way to move past the pain. Respect and honor yourself by pulling back the veils to truth.
4) Blaming Yourself - buying into the belief that your relationship failure is all your fault will shatter your self-esteem. The old adage is true, it takes two to tango, it always has and it always will. This has more to do with self-worth. Start loving yourself and stop judging your actions. You did the best you could and so did the other person.
Start looking at the lessons you learned from this relationship. Forgiveness is an important step to take if you are into self blame.
5) Husband Bashing - I know only too well how the injustice, the disappointment and the lies can drive you crazy, but sinking to his level by gossiping with your friends will just keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.
6) Isolating- hiding from the world will just make you more sad, lonely and depressed. Your self-esteem will plummet and you will most likely engage in all of the above negative behaviors. Get out and connect with others. Do something nice for someone else -that is guaranteed to make you feel better.
7) Focusing on Loss - this is where the law of attraction comes into play big time. Whatever you focus on will expand - if you stay in the mind-set of loss you stand to lose a lot more than your relationship.
Everything in life happens to support our spiritual growth. Do not let yourself fall prey to these debilitating reactions. You are a beautiful being - recognize your value and see what else the universe has to offer.
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